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Frequently Asked Questions for Her

Q: I see that you specialize in working with men but do you also work with woman?
A: Absolutely. I have a great deal of experience helping women in counseling and have always enjoyed working with female clients. Though I have a specialty of working with men on men's issues and the man's role in relationships, my experience, training, and interests also include many of the issues women seek counseling for. At any given time a percentage, and often a large percentage, of my client caseload are women.

Q: What are some of the benefits of a woman working with a male therapist?
A: For women seeking relationship help, I find that they often seek counseling with me in particular because I really understand men's issues, issues that often play a key role in the relationship problems they experience with their boyfriends or husbands. Part of the clarity I provide for women is in helping them better understand their partners in ways that are sometimes best understood by another male.

Q: My relationship is ending. Can you save it?
A: Research shows that couples often enter into marriage counseling about 7 years too late. While I cannot guarantee that our work together, either individually or as a couple, can save your relationship, I can guarantee that a couple has not done everything they can for an ailing relationship if they have not yet sought professional help. Couples counseling does often work, not only to help a relationship survive but also to help it thrive. Having said this, if our work together cannot save your relationship, we can work together to help you so that you can create a different type of relationship with your next partner.

Q: What if my partner won't go to counseling?
A: If your partner won't go to counseling it might be helpful to go without them. Sometimes partners will come to counseling only after their loved one shows them how serious they are by going without them. Some people want to come in after their partner goes so they can tell their side of the story or to set the counselor straight about the truth (but at least it gets them in, right?).

Q: If I work with you individually can you also work individually with my partner?
A: Clients in individual counseling will sometimes bring their partner in for one or two sessions to discuss issues as a couple, and I strongly encourage this when appropriate. Sometimes an individual counseling arrangement I have with someone leads to couples work and the individual counseling with the original partner either continues with me or is discontinued while the couples work is happening.

However, if I am working with an individual and their partner also desires individual counseling, I cannot see both members of a couple individually at the same time. I am often referred clients by other therapists who currently work with one member of the couple yet need a counselor for the other member. If we work together and you find your partner would like their own counseling, I have a number of trusted colleagues in the area I can refer them to.