Someone just sent me this image and I had to share. It's an art installation at this year's Burning Man and it's brilliant. This is so often what is happening between two members of a couple when in distress: the child parts of themselves are really just trying to move toward each other - to repair and connect. Inside, often ...
"The biggest communication problem is that we don't listen to understand. We listen to reply." (let us help you to better listen to understand)
Maybe you've heard of this, or even done this activity already. It was from a New York Times article a few years ago as part of a research study measuring how people fall in love. Not surprisingly that includes getting to know someone much more deeply and openly through, among other things, the sharing of feelings, opinions, dreams, and desires.
So this completely perpetuates stereotypes about therapists and therapy but it's just too good not to share:
A necessary part of what is considered mature love is creating a safe space for your partner (male or female) to open up, express, be vulnerable, and ultimately connect with you during times of being upset with one another. We need our loved ones to trust that if they get triggered, we will work to sooth them, that we want ...