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In Praise of Mediocrity: The pursuit of excellence has infiltrated & corrupted the world of leisure

Someone recently told me about the following NYT article by Tim Wu and I'm so glad they did, as I believe it makes an extremely important point about how we spend our time and the expectations & judgment we place on ourselves for achievement and the pursuit of perfection.


"I’m a little surprised by how many people tell me they have no hobbies. It may seem a small thing, but — at the risk of sounding grandiose — I see it as a sign of a civilization in decline. The idea of leisure, after all, is a hard-won achievement; it presupposes that we have overcome the exigencies of brute survival. Yet ...

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I'm not much into poetry, however

I have always loved this poem. My closest lifelong friend read it to me probably 25 years ago when I needed to hear this type of thing, and it has come in handy ever since, for myself and for my clients. For those issues in which we're simply unable to gain the clarity we need, we can find the value of simply living the questions themselves. Sometimes that really is all we can do, yet we have been driving ourselves nuts trying to find answers that are not yet available to us. Surrendering to living the questions can be extremely liberating and healing:

Be patient toward all that is unsolved ...

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Who am I?

"who am I? what am i? are no longer important questions.
           knowing that i am is finally enough..."

Los Angeles poet Wanda Coleman

Are you struggling to truly know that you are enough? We help men and women with this challenge every day - please reach out if we can help.

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800 Year Old Poem about Acceptance that Simply Makes Life EASIER

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness -  
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all.

Even if they're a crowd of sorrows
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice -
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes.

*Want help applying this approach to your life? We can ...

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Ten Dating Tips

Smiling Couple | Seattle WA Counseling

Everyone can learn something about how to date more often, how to attract the types of people we want to attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry grows into an enduring relationship. Here are some things to consider when out in the dating world, and if you'd like us to help you with this please come on in:

1. Get prepared for dating.

If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won't even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out ...

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