Bill Aloe, MA, LMFTA
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate
Bill's specialty areas:
- Relationships / Marriage / Premarital / Dating
- Male-identified Individuals (often referred to as "men's issues" or "men's mental health")
- Stress and burnout, including high-stress workplaces and career/life decisions related to work/life balance
- Life Transitions (new baby, empty nest, divorce)
- Consciously creating a value-driven life
I begin helping you, or you and your partner, from an understanding that growth and change can be both scary and exciting. I meet my clients wherever they are in life, and work with them in a non-judgmental and supportive manner to build a life of meaning, both in relationship to themselves and in relationship to others. Being a part of, and witnessing, your change and growth is what gets me excited to come into work every day!
In my work with couples, I integrate both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you to identify and modify your conflict patterns, build and enhance your friendship with each other, and create shared meaning within your relationship. Our work together leads to more authentic communication, improved trust, and better emotional and sexual connection. I have been trained in the Gottman approach to couples therapy through the Gottman Institute. I am a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy and the Washington State Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
Similar to the ways I approach helping couples, my approach to individual therapy is interactive, collaborative, and built upon research-based models of therapy. I help individuals in ways that integrate Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Humanistic and Systemic principles, Positive Psychology, Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT).
Whether you see me as an individual or a couples context, my work with you or you and your partner will focus on helping you identify the values that drive your life and that fulfill you. Building from your values we will then work toward helping you create a life that is congruent with those values. Sessions with me will include open and honest conversations about your past and present while of course exploring and helping you to create your hopes for the future.
Many people come to me when they are at the precipice of major life changes, including when considering career changes. Prior to my work as a therapist, I practiced law for over 10 years. My past career as a litigator allows me to understand the challenges of working in highly competitive workplaces with their inherent long hours, constant deadlines, office politics, and incessant pressure that can create feelings of burnout, anxiety, depression, and fatigue. I understand that the idea of work-life balance can seem illusory! I have personally seen that even when we have the best intentions, our relationships and personal well-being can fall victim to the stresses of life and the office. To me, success in the therapy room means that an individual or couple learns to better cope with the stresses of life through embracing their inherent flexibility, curiosity, and courage.
Other areas of specialty include: working with people experiencing anxiety and working with male-identified individuals of all sexual orientations and gender expressions to counter the effects of cultural and societal influences that may lead to feelings of being out of sync with their own emotional world that can present itself as anxiety or depression.
I have a Bachelor of Arts degree from Amherst College, a Juris Doctor degree from Ohio State University, a Masters degree in Couples and Family Therapy from Antioch University.
When not working, I can be found outside spending time with my family enjoying all that the Pacific Northwest has to offer, including hiking in the North Cascades, running, paddle boarding, and skiing.
I look forward to meeting you on your path to change, and please feel free to reach out to our intake coordinator, Makenzie, to set up an intake call with her.