First off, congratulations! You're in love and ready to let the world know. Premarital counseling can help you and your partner kick off an amazing life together. Your decision to commit to a lifelong relationship can affect so many aspects of your life, so it’s important to make sure you have a solid foundation when taking those next steps together.
Research shows that couples who attend therapy often do so about six years later than when the need arose. Relationship counseling is seen by many as only a reactive measure, rather than a proactive one, which isn’t the case. Couples can avoid years of heartache and anger, or even worse, divorce, by asking for guidance and help sooner.
If only there were mandatory classes on healthy relationships! Couples could learn some basic skills and approaches to inevitable relationship challenges, eliminating the distress often experienced without this type of guidance. That’s where premarital counseling comes in!
While premarital counseling certainly isn’t mandatory, it's a smart choice. It’s easy for individuals and couples to get caught up in the daily grind of life, and that’s without any pressing issues. When something troublesome is thrown into the mix, such as financial trouble or infertility, differences can become irreconcilable. The truth is, it doesn’t take much to get off-track when approaching many of the topics couples who are considering a greater commitment face, if you aren’t being proactive about it.
One of our experienced counselors can help guide you and your partner’s conversation and make sure that each of you feels heard, understood, connected, and validated. We help you to implement some approaches to common challenges, both current and awaiting in your future together.
What is covered in premarital counseling you ask?
What we cover will depend on you and your partner, the length of time you wish to spend, and the goals we identify during our time together. Typical topics include:
- Communication and conflict-resolution skills
- Emotional connections and safety
- Sexual and intimacy issues or differences
- Resentment avoidance
- Values, goals, and life purpose
- Fear reduction around marriage or commitment
- Common relationship/marriage pitfalls and how to avoid them
- Spirituality and religion
Pre-marital therapy usually runs for at least six sessions, and often, couples are truly benefiting from their time in therapy, so they choose to stay for longer. During each session, we will provide you and your partner with tools and strategies that you can immediately implement to help nurture and support the connection you have with each other.
While a skilled relationship therapist can help a couple at any stage of their relationship, there’s no question that it is much easier for partners to make positive changes earlier on, before unhealthy habits can form, and then persist over time. Early intervention greatly reduces the pain and resentment that costs so many couples years of happiness. An investment in preventive therapy will pay off for years to come!
Contact our Seattle, Washington counselors today to get started!