The new year is a time to reflect and look forward. While they are not necessarily new years resolutions, the following questions may be helpful to you in honoring the past year, while being more intentional in moving into this next year. These questions can be great first steps for anyone considering individual counseling, couples therapy, or intimacy therapy.
3 Questions to Help You Look Forward into the New Year
1. Make a list of all the things you're celebrating for 2019: What went well? What are you proud of? What have you accomplished ("accomplishments" can be of all types)? What can you brag about? Write them down, then toast yourself to them.
2. What are the things you don’t want to bring into 2020…what’s staying behind, what are you letting go of? Get really discerning about these. What are you setting the intention of not allowing to come into the new year with you? Perhaps these are behaviors but they may also be internal states or scripts that you play in your head...stories you've been telling yourself that aren't helpful or just simply aren't true?
3. What are the things you do want to bring into 2020, or create in 2020? What skills do you want to get better at? What personal growth do you want to increase this year? What relational growth do you want to increase...who is the partner you want to become this year to your spouse?