When we hear of grief counseling or grief therapy, we often assume that this service is for the bigger losses in life, such as the death of someone we love, or the death of a pet. But it's important to know that people are often grieving losses, even on a daily basis, of things that may not register as "grief and loss".
- Changing jobs or careers, even if a positive change
- Loss of hopes and dreams for the future that can’t be realized
- Choices our children make that conflict with our wishes for them
- The independence, freedom, and opportunity we had before having children
- A child leaving the home
- A social system such as a church or the company you work for failing to live up to its promises to protect or support you
- Any change in living conditions, even if positive
- A shift in the status of a friendship or family relationship
- Changes in residence, schools, or recreation
- A sense of security about your safety after a traumatic event
- Loss of meaningful objects or belongings
We encourage you to think of grief as experiences that we all will go through at times, and to be aware that often the distress we feel in response to something changing in our lives is actually the manifestation of our natural grieving process. Too often, we misunderstand the source of our difficult emotions, leading to unnecessary confusion and further distress.
Grief therapy can help us to learn how to recognize what is happening with us and then know what to do with that sense of loss so that we can effectively move through the emotions in healthy ways. Being able to navigate the many ways in which we grieve losses is perhaps one of the most useful life skills a person can have.
If you'd like help with your grief, please read about the grief counselor in our group, Hanna Kokko, on her Grief Counseling page, and reach out to her if you'd like.