Clarity Counseling Seattle

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): Sex/Intimacy Therapy

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Of course you have questions! This is a good thing – questions mean that you are invested in the process. We've collected some commonly asked questions here for you to look through:

Sex/Intimacy Therapy

Sex & Intimacy Therapy in Seattle

Not at all, and in fact many sex-related and intimacy-related issues such as low sex drive, problems bonding with sexual partners outside the bedroom, and so much more, have little to do with being in a partnered relationship. And if you are in a relationship but your partner is unable or unwilling to attend therapy with you, we can still work effectively on sex/intimacy challenges as an individual in therapy.

Man smiling | Seattle WA TherapyMen's Therapy in Seattle, WA

Male-identified individuals enter into counseling for a number of reasons, many of them the same as those that bring female-identified adults into therapy, but the following are issues we often work with men on:

Man sitting at desk writing in notebook | Therapy Seattle WAHere are some steps to ensure that you are getting the most of or your therapy sessions in Seattle, WA:

  1. Take some time after each session to review what was said and to really think about how to incorporate your therapy experience into your day-to-day life outside the therapy office.
  2. The most important work of therapy takes place in between sessions when the therapeutic hour is utilized outside of the therapist's office, so be sure to follow up on any tasks that were established in session.
  3. Be as honest with your therapist as you are willing, as he or she can't help you if you withhold important information.
  4. Trust that when moments in therapy are difficult, or the therapeutic work you do outside of the therapy session is difficult, that this is growth and positive change.

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If you are looking for a new therapist, contact Clarity Counseling Seattle and we can discuss options for you. 

Woman sitting on yoga mat | Seattle WA CounselingThere are a couple of common reasons why the process of therapy can be ineffective or, at a minimum, disappointing. For some, they may not have been truly ready to perform the necessary work of facing up to and working on the real issues at play in their situation, and this resistance stunted the process of creating lasting change.

It is not uncommon for people, though well-intentioned, to seek therapy in hopes of changing those around them rather than working on themselves. Thankfully, it is usually the case that when we change ourselves, those around us change as well. 

Importance of Relationship Between Therapist and Client

For others, the pairing of client and therapist may simply not have been the right match. Though many therapists differ in their specific therapeutic approach, research shows that the single best determinant of success in therapy is the quality of the working relationship between therapist and client. *This applies to both individual and couples therapy.

Female therapist and male patient | Counseling SeattlePsychiatric medications are sometimes used along with talk therapy, usually when people are diagnosed with mental disorders such as depression or anxiety.

Therapy and Medications

It is commonly recommended that talk therapy be incorporated into one's treatment whenever psychiatric medications are being used, as the combination of talk therapy and medications tends to work well together. An antidepressant may lift a person's mood, for example, allowing them to participate more fully in psychotherapy and therefore bring about more lasting change.

We have working relationships with trusted doctors, naturopaths, and nurse practitioners (ARNPs) in the area who can do medication management with clients if medication is appropriate. 

Compass | Therapist Seattle WASex therapy works just like a typical individual or couples therapy session at our Seattle, WA counseling office - the focus is just on sex-related topics and is conducted by a therapist who is highly trained in this area. Clients are helped to talk through and understand the causes of their sex or intimacy challenges, as well as the known solutions to issues such as mismatched sexual desire between partners, low or no sex drive, overactive sex drive, sexless marriages, and more. Homework exercises are often given, as well as educational materials that help to bring the issue to its resolution.

Sex Therapy Governed by the AASECT

Sex therapy treatment is governed by the American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). Sex Therapy does not ever involve physical instruction or observation of a sex act by the therapist. Sometimes folks have the misperception that there is any type of sexual activity that occurs in the therapy office, which is absolutely untrue. Persons participating in the session will always be clothed and maintain professional boundaries at all times.

Please reach out to us if you have other questions about sex therapy at our Seattle, WA office.

The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has very stringent requirements for training and experience in the area of sex therapy. Sexual health professionals have rigorous standards for academic preparation, supervised training and consultation, field-related experience and applied skills.

Training for Sex Therapy

Sex therapists read a great deal of academic books, attend many (many!) hours of clinical trainings and workshops in this specialty, do peer consultation, and study under seasoned clinicians who are considered masters in this field. Personally, I (Justin Pere) have studied with and experienced this field through Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers at Seattle Pacific University and Dr. Stella Resnick in Los Angeles, California.


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