Welcome to Clarity Counseling Seattle

You’re here for a reason — and we’re really glad you found us.

Maybe things feel tense between you and your partner. Maybe you’re feeling off in your own life — anxious, disconnected, overwhelmed. Or maybe you just know it’s time to get support, even if you’re not sure where to start.

Founder Justin Pere was recently quoted in the New York Times about “mankeeping” — a term that describes the emotional labor women are often expected to take on to manage the emotional lives of the men they love, even when they never signed up for that role. We’re honored to see this conversation getting broader visibility. Read our response here.

Our current team — Justin, Emma, Rosa, Hyacinth, Lindsey, Maggie, Misa, Corey, and Lisa — is a group of compassionate, highly trained therapists who help people like you move through stuck places in relationships, in intimacy, and in life. For over 15 years, we’ve supported clients navigating relationship stress, disconnection, and emotional concerns. Each therapist here is affirming, skilled, and committed to creating a safe, welcoming space for people of all identities and relationship structures.

This website shares how we work, who we support, and the kinds of therapy we offer — but most of all, we hope it gives you a sense that healing is possible. You’re not alone in this.

*And yes, we realize there’s a lot of information here — and not everyone wants to read every word! Choosing a therapist is a big decision, so we’ve chosen to say more rather than less and let you decide how much you want to explore before reaching out. The About Us page tells you more about who we are, the Services pages outline our specialties, and our Blog posts are here to be genuinely useful. Links throughout the site should help you navigate to what matters most to you.

Specializing in Couples and Relationship Therapy in Seattle

We offer in-person therapy in South Lake Union and online therapy across Washington State, helping individuals, couples, and polycules navigate relationship challenges, intimacy concerns, and emotional well-being. With specialties including couples counseling, relationship therapy, sex therapy, marriage therapy, therapy for adults in midlife & beyond, and therapy for men, we’re proud to be sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and supportive of polyamorous and kink communities. So if you’re searching for a Seattle couples therapist who understands emotional distance, recurring conflict, or a lack of sexual connection, we can help. We don’t skim the surface—we get to the root of what’s going on, so you can reconnect in ways that are real, lasting, and meaningful.

Couples and Relationship Therapy

We love working with couples at all stages — dating, engaged, married, or uncertain — who are facing communication struggles, emotional disconnection, or challenges with intimacy. If you're searching for couples therapy in Seattle that goes beyond surface-level advice, that's us. Our approach is grounded in the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS/IFIO), and The Developmental Model, among others.

Here are some of the most common things couples share with us:

• “We love each other, but we keep having the same argument over and over again. We need help learning how to actually hear each other.”
• “Sex used to be great between us, but that’s changed. We’re not sure what happened or how to fix it.” (Read our blog on desire here)
• “We’re getting married soon and we want to set ourselves up for success! We’d like premarital therapy to help build a strong foundation.”
• “We want to feel like a team again — connected, secure, and able to handle life together.”
• “We’ve heard that Gottman couples therapy can help with communication and rebuilding trust. That sounds like what we need.”
• “We’re a midlife couple, and changes like aging, career shifts, or an empty nest are impacting our relationship.”

Individual Therapy in Seattle and Throughout Washington

People seek individual therapy for all sorts of reasons — stress, anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, major life transitions, or simply wanting to feel more like themselves again. Our therapists provide a compassionate, collaborative space to help you make sense of what you're feeling, identify patterns that no longer serve you, and move forward with more clarity and self-trust.

Some of the most common things our clients share with us:

• “I used to feel better and enjoy my life more...what’s happening with me?
• “The state of the world is overwhelming. I think I need support managing everything I’m feeling.”
• “My relationship is struggling, and I don’t know if my partner will come to counseling. Can you help just me?” *Yes! Couples therapy for one is a powerful way to create change even if your partner isn’t ready.
• “I’ve been told I should talk to someone, but I don’t know if therapy is right for me.”  *Here’s how to know when it might be time to reach out
• “Being in midlife is bringing up some new & difficult things for me...I could really use some support.” 

Sex and Intimacy Therapy in Seattle and Across Washington

Our certified sex therapists in Seattle work with folx who are navigating challenges around desire, intimacy, aging or changing bodies, and sexual connection. Whether you're facing low or mismatched libido, emotional distance in the bedroom, a lack of sexual confidence, midlife changes in sexuality, or difficulty talking about your needs, sex therapy can help you move toward more ease, closeness, and pleasure.

We completely understand that it can feel intimidating to reach out about sexual concerns. Many of our clients tell us they’ve been struggling in silence...unsure how to begin the conversation or whether their concerns are “normal.” In a safe, affirming space, we help you explore the emotional, relational, physical, and psychological aspects of your sexual well-being.

Our approach is grounded in empathy and expertise. We’re sex-positive, trauma-informed, and LGBTQIA+ affirming, and we support clients across the spectrum of identities, orientations, ages, and relationship structures (including kink, non-monogamy, and asexuality). Sessions may include education, communication skills, experiential exercises (non-sexual), and practical tools tailored to your unique goals.

If you're not sure where to start, this blog post on pleasure-focused intimacy may offer a helpful shift in perspective.

We offer online sex therapy throughout Washington State and in-person sessions in our Seattle office. If you're searching for a compassionate and qualified sex therapist near you, we’re here to help.

Our Seattle Therapists Can Help

As sex therapists and relationship counselors, we’ve helped thousands of individuals, couples, and polycules move through stuck places and into more connection, confidence, and clarity. Thanks to secure online therapy across Washington State, we’re now able to support clients from Bellingham to Spokane, Olympia to Walla Walla — not just those near our South Lake Union office.

If you're not sure where to begin, we invite you to contact us here. Together we’ll figure out the right starting place, and the right therapist, for you.

How Therapy in Seattle Can Benefit You

We offer therapy that’s practical, compassionate, and designed to address what’s actually going on beneath the surface...not just the symptoms.

Here are some additional ways therapy with us can support your growth and healing:

• Improve communication, emotional safety, and trust in your relationship
• Address sexual challenges like low desire, sexual anxiety, or a lack of pleasure and connection
• Get thoughtful support through midlife transitions, aging, or later-life relationship changes
• Increase comfort with vulnerability, intimacy, and emotional expression
• Navigate men’s mental health concerns, including emotional disconnection, isolation, or relationship frustration
• Reduce anxiety, lift depressive symptoms, and manage difficult emotions
• Heal from trauma, betrayal, or painful relationship patterns
• Build self-esteem, self-compassion, and personal clarity
• Get affirming support from therapists with lived experience and training in LGBTQIA+ issues
• Develop tools to manage stress, boundaries, and life transitions with more ease

Our work together is collaborative and goal-oriented — rooted in insight and action. Whether you’re in Seattle or anywhere in Washington State, we offer both in-person and online therapy sessions to meet your needs and lifestyle.

Common Questions About Our Therapy Services

What types of therapy does Clarity Counseling Seattle offer?

We provide therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules — both in-person at our Seattle office and statewide via secure online therapy. Our specialties include relationship counseling, marriage therapy, sex and intimacy therapy, therapy for adults in midlife and beyond, therapy for men, and premarital and pre-commitment counseling.

Do you offer virtual therapy in Washington State?

Yes. We offer HIPAA-compliant video sessions for clients located anywhere in Washington. Whether you live in Seattle, Spokane, Bellingham, or beyond, our telehealth therapy services make it easier to access high-quality care from the comfort of your home.

How do I know if your therapists are a good fit for me?

Many of our clients are navigating relationship challenges, sexual concerns, or emotional struggles like anxiety, depression, or disconnection. Our therapists are warm, affirming, and deeply experienced with complex interpersonal dynamics. We offer a free consult call so you can ask questions and see if we’re the right fit.

Do you serve areas outside Seattle?

Absolutely! Our licenses allow us to work with anyone physically located in Washington State. Even if you’re hours from Seattle, our online therapy options allow you to connect with experienced therapists who specialize in relationships, sex therapy, and men’s mental health.

Contact us here if you’re ready to schedule a session or want to learn more.

~ Justin, Emma, Rosa, Hyacinth, Lindsey, Maggie, Misa, Corey and Lisa