Couples Therapy for One in Seattle, WA

Is your relationship no longer working the way it used to? Perhaps it changed somewhere along the way. Are you finding that the changes in your daily life, brought about by the current pandemic, are revealing that your relationship needs help?

Maybe you’ve been hinting that it’s time to address what's happening to make it better and you know that counseling will help – but your partner refuses to go.

Many people in this situation believe that without their partner’s active participation in counseling the relationship is doomed, or at least stuck. But people resist counseling for all kinds of reasons, and just because your partner is not, or cannot be, a willing participant doesn’t mean that all is lost.

Couples therapy, currently in the format of online therapy, with just one half of the equation still helps.

Who's Leading Your Dance?

Every relationship, of all genders and orientations, is a kind of dance. When one person changes the steps of the dance, the other person(s) must change their own patterns as well. You can’t force another person to change their behaviors. What you can do, however, is learn better ways to communicate, and what often happens is that your partner, without even realizing it, picks up on these changes and changes their own behavior in response. This isn't manipulation, it's a healthy adjustment in your interaction strategy that often results in positive benefits for both. Change your steps of the dance and your partner will change theirs as well.

For example, you might come to couples therapy frustrated by the frequent defensiveness of your partner. Working with a skilled and compassionate counselor can show you that you may be inadvertently communicating criticism to your partner. With this insight, your partner’s defensiveness makes sense and compassion is generated. At this point, you can learn how to more clearly communicate your needs in ways that avoid criticism. Since your partner no longer feels defensive, their behavior that is troubling you diminishes.

Silhouette of hands making heart | Therapy in Seattle WAIn our therapy practice we've seen this and similar situations many times and have helped many people change their steps to create a new, stronger, more beautiful dance.

Help From Clarity Counseling in 98109

Your counselor is your ally, and working one-on-one on your relationship, even without your partner ever entering therapy with you, allows for greater privacy and freedom to explore options and counseling approaches & techniques so that you can create the change you desire at home.

Our office is located near the South Lake Union area of Seattle, and while all therapy is currently online therapy (telehealth), we look forward to meeting with you in-person just as soon as we all can. Please visit the contact page to schedule an online therapy appointment with one of our Seattle therapists.