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How does that make you feel?

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That's the quintessential joke we make about therapists, right? Always asking us about our feelings! While Dan, Justin, and I do so much more than inquire about our client's emotions, it's also the case that how someone relates to their feelings is often a huge factor in why and how they experience the challenges that bring them into therapy in the first place. We're given all sorts of misinformation about what we're supposed to do with the more difficult emotions like sadness, anger, fear, and guilt, and those less-healthy approaches to managing feelings can cause us distress.

Here is a brief description of the role of emotions that may help ...

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S = P x R

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This concept related to acceptance and resistance is something I've called upon in my work with clients for many years, yet never thought to include in a blog post. But it's just so incredibly useful that it should be shared. A hard concept to integrate, but to the extent that you can, life simply becomes easier!

The idea is this:   S = P x R   Suffering equals Pain times Resistance   *Pain in inevitable in life; Resistance is something we add.

Accept pain for what it is because it does exist. Pain includes both physical and emotional pain.

Resisting our pain worsens our suffering. Resistance can include: Shoulds, Coulds, Woulds, Denial, Pushing away, Holding ...

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2018 had bad, but also a lot of good

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It's so easy to become mired in the things we hear about in the news that are inhumane, discouraging, or downright scary. It can be helpful to remember that, although they may not make the headlines, there are at all times good things happening in the world. Individuals, groups, organizations, even countries are performing some pretty inspiring and hopeful acts. To balance out some of the chaos and uncertainty of 2018, here is an excerpt from a CNN article called 2018 wasn't ALL bad. Here are all the good things that happened in the world (By Andrea Diaz and Christina Maxouris, CNN):

THE WORLD

North and South Korea vowed to ...

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But why a sex therapist?

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Our practice often receives inquiries from folks asking about the need for their individual or couples therapist to be specifically trained in sex/intimacy issues. This is certainly understandable considering the relative few fully-trained sex therapists as compared to therapists without this specialty, especially in a city like Seattle which has a great number of licensed and able therapists. Those of us trained in sex & intimacy issues are more difficult to find, to book sessions with, and we often charge more money. Plus, shouldn’t clients assume that any counselor claiming qualifications to work with relationships be ready to help address relational sexual distress?

Sex Therapy Education

Unfortunately, the educational programs we ...

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Overcoming Procrastination

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I recently came across this Psychology Today article that does a better job than most at giving practical advice about addressing procrastination.

Tips on How to Address Procrastination

  1. One of the simplest and most effective solutions is to just get started anywhere on a task. The moment you think "I'll feel more like doing this later" or "I work better under pressure," recognize that you're just about to procrastinate and stop yourself.
  2. Don't think too far ahead. Just aim for a little progress. Research indicates that establishing a low threshold to task engagement fuels motivation and changes the perception of the task. You'll find it's not as bad as you thought.
  3. Move ...

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In Praise of Mediocrity: The pursuit of excellence has infiltrated & corrupted the world of leisure

Someone recently told me about the following NYT article by Tim Wu and I'm so glad they did, as I believe it makes an extremely important point about how we spend our time and the expectations & judgment we place on ourselves for achievement and the pursuit of perfection.

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"I’m a little surprised by how many people tell me they have no hobbies. It may seem a small thing, but — at the risk of sounding grandiose — I see it as a sign of a civilization in decline. The idea of leisure, after all, is a hard-won achievement; it presupposes that we have overcome the exigencies of brute survival. Yet ...

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