Let’s be clear: this isn’t a list of things to “fix” about yourself. You’re not broken, and you don’t need a total overhaul. But many of us — without realizing it — carry habits of thought and behavior that quietly wear us down. They keep us small, stuck, or simply exhausted. Quitting them isn’t about discipline. It’s about making room to breathe.
1. Quit Apologizing for Having Needs
You don’t have to earn the right to rest, space, comfort, or clarity. You are allowed to ask for what you need — in your relationships, at work, in therapy, in life. Apologizing for your needs teaches you (and others) that they are somehow a burden. They’re not.
2. Quit Comparing Your Pain to Others'
Your struggle doesn’t have to reach some threshold of severity to matter. “Other people have it worse” might be true, but it’s not helpful. There’s no hierarchy of suffering. Your pain is valid. It deserves care — not dismissal.
3. Quit Believing Everything Your Inner Critic Says
That voice in your head? The one that tells you you’re not doing enough, not good enough, not strong enough? It might be familiar, but that doesn’t make it true. You can learn to recognize that voice without obeying it. That’s part of the work we do in individual therapy.
4. Quit Hustling for Your Worth
You are not your productivity. Not your relationship status. Not your ability to keep it all together. Your value is not something you have to prove — it's something you can return to. Again and again.
5. Quit Ignoring What Your Body Is Telling You
Tight shoulders. Shallow breath. Racing heart. Numbness. Your body is always in conversation with you — offering clues, warnings, signals. Tuning in isn’t indulgent. It’s wisdom. It’s survival.
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. These habits often form as survival strategies — especially for people who’ve had to hold a lot, for a long time. But survival mode isn’t meant to be permanent.
Therapy can help you notice what you're carrying, and gently begin to set some of it down. If you’re ready to unlearn a few things and rediscover parts of yourself that got buried along the way, we’re here to help. You may also benefit from exploring therapy for men or couples therapy for one, depending on what you're navigating right now.
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