Every now and then, you come across a quote that stops you. One that feels like it names something you've been trying to say — or maybe something you've been longing to hear. This one, by Scott Stabile, did that for me:
“Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don't change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad.
Find people who understand that we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there's no weakness in admitting it.
Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you to be real, too.
Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful, and who aren't afraid to honor both of those realities.
Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who take joy in your joy.
Find people who love you, for real, and who accept you, for real. Just as you are.
They're out there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. Don't stop searching until you find them.”
– Scott Stabile, Big Love
There’s something radical in these words — and also something deeply human. In therapy, we often talk about the importance of being seen, not just in your strengths, but in your struggle. Yet many people have never had the experience of being truly accepted in their hardest moments.
The therapists at Clarity Counseling Seattle, we know how powerful it can be to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're navigating grief, depression, anxiety, or simply the weight of being human, therapy can offer the kind of presence this quote speaks to — one that doesn't rush to fix, silence, or redirect.
You deserve to be real. Not curated, not fine, not less-than. Just human. And you deserve relationships — with others, and with yourself — that honor the complexity of what that means.
If you're looking for a place to be honest about how you're doing — even if it's messy, even if it's hard — we’re here. Not to give you a script, but to offer a space where you can speak freely and feel fully human in the process.
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If you’ve been waiting to find your people — the ones who meet you with love, for real — you’re not alone. And we’d be honored to be part of that journey.