There’s a moment that many people experience sometime in their 40s, 50s, or 60s. Nothing is obviously wrong...life looks fine from the outside...but something inside feels flat. You might feel less connected to your partner, less excited about your career, or unsure of what you’re even working toward anymore.
For some this feeling comes on slowly. For others, it arrives in a moment of quiet: standing in the kitchen after the kids leave home, sitting in traffic, or looking at your partner and realizing how far apart you’ve drifted. The question rises up uninvited: Is this all there is?
Midlife disconnection is more common than you think
It's important to realize that this experience doesn’t always look like a crisis. Sometimes it’s more like a quiet ache - a sense that you’ve been doing everything “right,” and yet something feels off. You may notice:
- A lack of joy or enthusiasm, even in things you used to enjoy
- Feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner or loved ones
- A sense of invisibility or losing touch with your identity
- Restlessness, irritability, or grief that’s hard to name
- Thoughts like “I should be grateful... so why do I feel so stuck?”
These feelings can be confusing, especially if you’ve spent years focused on caring for others, building a career, or keeping things afloat. Therapy offers space to explore what’s underneath the disconnection and begin rediscovering what feels meaningful to you now.
Therapy isn’t just for fixing problems...it’s for finding yourself again
The therapists on our team who specialize in this age group work with many individuals and couples who are feeling emotionally adrift in midlife. You don’t have to wait for a major crisis to begin. Therapy can help you:
- Reconnect with your inner voice and clarify your values
- Explore why certain patterns or feelings are showing up now
- Address long-standing relationship dynamics that feel unsatisfying
- Grieve parts of your life that feel like they’ve passed—and imagine what’s still possible
- Start making decisions that reflect who you are today, not just who you’ve always been
This stage of life can be lonely, but it can also be transformative. The question “Is this all there is?” might actually be the beginning of something new.
We’re here when you’re ready
You don’t have to untangle this alone. Whether you're looking to reconnect with yourself, your partner, or your purpose, we offer therapy for adults in midlife and beyond that’s grounded in care, depth, and possibility.
Sessions are available in-person in Seattle or through online therapy across Washington. If something inside you is stirring, even if you can't name it yet, we’re here to help you listen.