Kaitlyn McManus, MA, LMFTA

Relationships, Sex & Communication

(she/her pronouns)

Seattle + telehealth across Washington

Focus: couples therapy, relationship counseling, sex and intimacy therapy, conflict and communication patterns, relationship transitions, kink and fetish affirming therapy, neurodivergence, LGBTQIA2S+ identities, consensual non-monogamy

Fee: $185 for individuals, $195 for couples/relationships

I support couples, polycules, and individuals who want to build stronger, more authentic relationships with themselves and with the people they love. Many clients come to me when they feel stuck in painful communication patterns, disconnected from emotional or sexual intimacy, unsure how to name what they want, or afraid that their needs are too much.

As a sex and relationship therapist offering in-person therapy in Seattle and online therapy across Washington, I provide a shame-free, collaborative, and affirming space to explore what feels most honest, nourishing, and sustainable in your life and relationship(s).

My work is supportive and direct, strength-based, culturally sensitive, identity affirming, and sex positive. Together, we can help you better understand your patterns, communicate your needs more clearly, and move toward relationships that feel safer, more connected, and more fully your own.

Areas I Commonly Support Clients With:

• Couples therapy, relationship therapy, marriage counseling, premarital therapy, and dating support
• Relationship therapy for individuals, couples, polycules, and non-traditional relationship structures
• Sex therapy, intimacy concerns, desire differences, sexual shame, pelvic pain, sexual dysfunction, and barriers to a more fulfilling sex life
• Conflict cycles, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, and recurring relationship patterns
• Kink, fetish, power exchange, and consensual non-monogamy affirming therapy
• LGBTQIA2S+ affirming care, including gender and sexual identity exploration
• Neurodivergent affirming therapy, including ADHD in relationships
• Relationship transitions related to parenting, moving, aging, grief, job changes, and other major life changes
• Trust repair, boundary ruptures, infidelity, and affair recovery
• Anxiety, depression, grief, and trauma impacting relationships and daily life

Professional Credentials:

• Marriage and Family Therapist Associate License Applicant, Washington State
• Master of Arts in Couple and Family Therapy, Antioch University Seattle
• Sex Therapy Certificate, Antioch University Seattle
• Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Training in Narrative Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), anti-oppressive systemic therapy, and sex-positive approaches including David Schnarch’s Sexual Crucible Theory
• Group facilitator and consent educator on issues of consent in relationships
• Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), Washington Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (WAMFT), and American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)

I support people in learning more about their inner worlds, their feelings, and their relationships. So often, we inherit stories about who we are supposed to be, how love is supposed to look, what sex is supposed to mean, and which parts of ourselves are acceptable. Therapy offers a place to pause, get curious, and begin rewriting those stories in a way that feels more honest and alive.

For couples and polycules, my goal is to help you understand the patterns that keep repeating, speak a more shared language of intimacy, and build trust through clearer communication. By honoring your unique relational strengths, we can work toward a bond that is meaningful, resilient, and able to grow through life’s inevitable changes.

How I Work

In my work with individuals, couples, and polycules, I draw from several therapeutic approaches and tailor our work to your needs, identities, values, and goals. With relationships, I often draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Narrative Therapy, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy. With individuals, I often draw from Narrative Therapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

My stance is empathetic, compassionate, collaborative, and direct. In sessions, I bring active curiosity to the patterns, beliefs, attachment needs, and life experiences that shape how you relate to yourself and others. Together, we’ll explore the stories you carry, the roles you may have learned to play, and the parts of you that are asking for more space, care, or expression.

I’m especially drawn to systemic, anti-oppressive, and postmodern frameworks because they help place relationship struggles in context. When we understand how culture, family systems, identity, trauma, and power shape our lives, struggles often become less shameful and more possible to change.

Together, we’ll nourish and expand what’s already working while also making room to understand stuck patterns, rigid roles, and the places where connection breaks down. Our work will be grounded in consent, collaboration, and respect for your values and identities.

Experience That Informs My Work

Before joining Clarity Counseling Seattle, I worked in a group practice setting supporting couples and individuals with relationship concerns, sex therapy, and the vulnerable emotions that often arise when people are trying to feel closer, safer, and more understood.

I also volunteer as a consent educator and group facilitator. This work has deepened my appreciation for community, self-trust, self-advocacy, and the importance of living in alignment with your values.

What You Can Expect

Clients describe me as compassionate, curious, and helpful. I will slow down with you in the moment, especially when hard or scary feelings come up, and help make those feelings easier to understand and work with.

I am affirming and empathetic, and I will also gently challenge you to go deeper when that feels useful and appropriate. Our work will be collaborative, consent-based, and shaped around your goals, needs, identities, and values.

Outside the therapy room, I enjoy connecting with my people and my dog, dancing, laughing, trying new foods, and traveling whenever I can.

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