Talor Lee-Stiles, MEd, LMHCA, LMT

Attachment, Relationships, Sex & Intimacy

(he/him pronouns)

Seattle + telehealth across Washington

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Focus: Individual therapy and couples therapy, attachment and relationship patterns, sex and intimacy therapy, communication and conflict, anxiety, depression, betrayal and trust repair, parenting and life transitions, spirituality and sexuality, and men's mental health

Fee: $185 for individuals, $195 for couples/relationships

I work with individuals and couples who want to better understand the emotional and relationship patterns shaping their lives. These patterns often become most visible in our closest relationships—in how we seek connection, protect ourselves from hurt, express or silence our needs, respond to conflict, and balance intimacy with a sense of self.

You may find yourself repeating patterns that leave you feeling uncertain, unseen, or alone. Maybe you have difficulty trusting your own needs, become overwhelmed by emotion, or protect yourself by withdrawing or staying in control. You may want greater closeness while also fearing what could happen if you allow yourself to be fully known. Therapy can offer a place to understand these patterns with more compassion and begin creating new ways of relating.

Couples often come to me when they feel caught in the same painful cycle despite genuinely loving one another. You may long for more closeness with your partner but struggle to reach each other when it matters most. Perhaps your sex life has become automatic or lost its vitality. Parenthood, betrayal, stress, or the demands of everyday life may have quietly reshaped your relationship, leaving you unsure how to name what you want or afraid your needs are too much.

My style is attuned and compassionately direct. We will look beneath the immediate problem to understand the emotions, attachment needs, and protective responses underneath it. Rather than relying on insight and cognition alone, I work experientially and from the bottom up—slowing things down so they can be felt more deeply and allowing new possibilities to emerge from there.

Whether I am working with an individual or a couple, our work is ultimately about developing greater freedom in how you relate: becoming more able to stay connected without losing yourself, express what matters without shame, and respond to difficult emotions with greater awareness and choice.

My practice welcomes people across a range of identities, beliefs, backgrounds, and relationship structures, including those who are single, dating, partnered, or navigating changes in commitment. I am an LGBTQIA+ ally and faith-affirming, and I strive to offer a space grounded in curiosity, respect, genuine presence, and honest engagement.

Meet Talor

Areas I Commonly Support Clients With:

• Attachment, emotional patterns, and relationship concerns
• Communication, conflict, and creating more secure connection
• Difficulty expressing needs, setting boundaries, or maintaining a sense of self in relationships
• Dating, belonging, loneliness, and repeated relationship patterns
• Anxiety, depression, identity, and questions of meaning
• Desire differences, erotic intimacy, and sexual concerns
• Betrayal, infidelity, and trust repair
• Commitment and transitions between monogamy and consensual non-monogamy
• Trauma recovery following nonconsensual sexual experiences
• Concerns about pornography use and unwanted sexual behaviors
• Integrating faith, spirituality, and sexuality
• Parenthood, fatherhood, and major life transitions
• Men's emotional health, sexuality, and masculinity
• Young adults and identity development
• Staying grounded in your identity across cultural, religious, and worldview differences
• Mindfulness, embodiment, and personal growth

Professional Credentials:

• Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate (LMHCA), Washington State
• Master of Education in Clinical Mental Health Counseling (CACREP), Lindsey Wilson College
• Advanced Training in Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy
• Externship and Advanced Training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
• Training in the Passion and Presence® Model of Relationship Sex Therapy
• Training in Mindfulness, Somatic, and Presence-Based Approaches to Human Sexuality and Intimacy
• Training in Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Member, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)

How I Work

My professional training and experience have shaped a presence-based, experiential, and relational approach to therapy. The approaches that inform my work share a common belief: lasting change often happens through new experiences of connection, awareness, embodiment, emotional safety, repair, and integration. Whether I'm working with an individual or a couple, I try to create a therapeutic space grounded in curiosity, respect, genuine presence, and directness. Over time, this can help clients develop greater emotional flexibility, resilience, authenticity, and confidence in how they relate to themselves and others.

I believe healing is rarely about becoming someone different. More often, it's about recovering the parts of ourselves that have been hidden, forgotten, or left behind and integrating them into a life that feels more wholehearted, intentional, and alive. My hope is that you'll feel deeply seen and understood, while also feeling challenged and supported enough to grow in the directions that matter most to you.

Experience That Informs My Work

I have had a lifelong curiosity about what shapes human beings and how people grow, heal, and create meaningful lives. My own life, including my marriage and the many seasons of growth and repair my wife and I have experienced together, has reinforced my belief that relationships are among our greatest opportunities for healing and transformation.

Outside the therapy room, you'll usually find me spending time with my wife, daughters, and community on the Olympic Peninsula, working on our homestead, strength training, or spending time outdoors. Mindfulness and traditional ceremonial & contemplative practices continue to shape how I understand healing—not as something we think our way into, but as something that unfolds as we reconnect with ourselves, our relationships, and what matters most. Growth, to me, is not a destination but an ongoing way of living, and I strive to bring that into the therapy room.

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