“The talk” isn’t what it used to be—and in many ways, it still isn’t what it should be. For many of us, sex education growing up was vague, clinical, awkward, or rooted in shame. Essential topics like consent, emotional safety, pleasure, identity, and sexual diversity were often left out entirely. Even today, those outdated messages about sex and sexuality continue to echo in people’s lives—often without them realizing it.
Someone recently shared a sharp and funny video that highlights just how uncomfortable and outdated the "birds and bees" metaphor has become in modern culture. Beneath the humor lies a critical truth: we’re long overdue for open, affirming, and accurate conversations about sex.
Our therapists work with individuals, couples, and polycules who are trying to make sense of the messages they’ve received about sex and intimacy. These stories often include shame, silence, confusion, or pressure to meet unrealistic expectations. Whether you’re exploring your sexual identity, healing from intimacy challenges, or hoping to have better conversations with your partner—or even your children—sex therapy can help you create a new, more empowering narrative.
Many clients come to therapy unsure of what’s “normal” when it comes to desire, pleasure, or communication about sex. What we often uncover is that their confusion isn’t personal failure—it’s a reflection of the absence of healthy models. Therapy offers a space to examine the stories you’ve been handed and decide what actually fits you, your values, and your relationships. It’s about replacing shame with curiosity and silence with conversation.
This work can also ripple outward. Parents, for example, often find themselves wanting to do better than previous generations—but unsure where to start. A therapist trained in sex and intimacy issues can help parents feel more confident talking to their kids about bodies, boundaries, and identity in ways that are age-appropriate, honest, and affirming. Finding an LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist can also be an important part of this journey.
If you’re interested in how therapy can help unravel internalized beliefs about sex, you might also want to read how EMDR and talk therapy can address deeper sexual and emotional patterns or explore how a pleasure-focused approach to desire can transform intimacy.
Let’s move beyond outdated metaphors...and into real, affirming dialogue.
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