I have always loved this poem. My closest lifelong friend read it to me probably 25 years ago when I needed to hear this type of thing, and it has come in handy ever since, for myself and for my clients. For those issues in which we're simply unable to gain the clarity we need, we can find the value of simply living the questions themselves. Sometimes that really is all we can do, yet we have been driving ourselves nuts trying to find answers that are not yet available to us. Surrendering to living the questions can be extremely liberating and healing:
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
- Rainer Maria Rilke, from Letters To A Young Poet