Men's Therapy in Seattle, WA

Many people who identify as male grow up being told that emotions are weakness...that asking for help means you’re failing...that logic alone should solve everything. These messages can deeply affect emotional development, self-identity, and connection with others.

At Clarity Counseling Seattle, we work with men including cisgender, transgender, and nonbinary individuals with a masculine identity who are ready to challenge those outdated beliefs. We know how hard it can be to reach out, especially when you’re used to handling things on your own. Seeking support isn’t weakness...it’s strength. Building emotional intelligence, self-trust, and deeper relationships can help you live with more clarity and ease.

If your partner has said they feel like they’re doing all the emotional heavy lifting or if you’ve noticed tension but aren’t sure how to respond, you’re not alone. These are common challenges we help men work through in therapy.

Our therapists help men build secure attachment, explore identity, develop empathy, and show up more fully in their relationships...with partners, friends, and themselves.

What is men’s therapy at Clarity Counseling Seattle?

Men’s therapy offers a space to gain clarity, emotional range, and resilience. Whether you’re navigating relationships, work stress, or questions about identity and purpose, therapy can help you develop the tools, language, and confidence to live with more intention and less pressure.

Many men grow up learning to disconnect from their feelings, intuition, and vulnerability. In therapy, we help you reclaim those inner resources so you can move through life feeling more grounded, open, and connected.

How do stress and emotions show up for men?

For many men, distress doesn’t always feel like sadness. It can show up as irritability or anger, emotional shutdown, overworking, trouble sleeping, body tension, headaches, or a constant sense that you should “power through.” Therapy helps you connect the dots between what you feel, how it shows up in your body and behavior, and what you actually need.

Emotional labor shows up often in men’s therapy, especially when partners feel they’re carrying more of the emotional weight in the relationship. Clarity Counseling Seattle’s founder and lead therapist, Justin Pere, was interviewed by the New York Times about how unspoken expectations and gender roles shape connection and closeness.

Justin also recently contributed to a Seattle Times investigation into why suicide rates among older adults in Washington remain high. His insights focused on how loneliness, identity shifts, health changes, and the pressure to appear self-sufficient can deeply impact men's emotional well-being in midlife and later life. (Read the article | PDF)

If you’d like to see how Clarity Counseling Seattle contributes to broader conversations about emotional labor, men’s mental health, and modern relationships, you can explore our interviews and articles featured in national media outlets on our Media & Press page.

What challenges can men’s therapy help with?

We work with clients navigating a wide range of concerns, including:

• Depression, stress, and anxiety
• Relationship difficulties and intimacy concerns
• Emotional unavailability and attachment issues
• Parenting, career stress, or major life transitions
• Anger, irritability, or emotional shutdown
• Shame, self-doubt, and inner criticism
• Masculinity and identity exploration
• Male loneliness and friendship struggles
• Sexuality and gender expression
• Trauma including childhood, relational, or systemic trauma
• Consent, emotional labor, and communication in relationships
• Work-related pressure including tech or leadership roles
• Infidelity and trust repair

How do we approach therapy with men differently?

We take a holistic, affirming approach grounded in an understanding of how attachment forms, how intuition gets quieted, and how masculinity norms can cut men off from the emotional tools they need most. We teach skills to express needs, regulate emotions, and show up with care, presence, and consent.

Depending on your goals, your therapist may draw from:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for practical coping skills
• Attachment-based therapy to strengthen emotional connection
• EMDR to process painful memories or trauma
• The Gottman Method for relationship tools such as bids for connection

We tailor the approach to fit you, your story, and your goals.

Which therapists at Clarity Counseling Seattle work with men?

Our team includes LGBTQIA+ affirming, trauma-informed clinicians experienced in supporting men navigating silence, pressure, isolation, and the impact those patterns can have on relationships and self-worth. Whoever you work with, you’ll be met with respect, curiosity, and genuine care.

How can you start men’s therapy in Seattle or online?

You don’t need to be in crisis to start. If you’re tired of carrying everything alone or want to show up differently in your relationships, we’re here to support you. We offer online therapy across Washington and in-person sessions at our South Lake Union office in Seattle.

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