Blog: Men's Therapy

Not all loneliness is visible. For many men, it hides in plain sight...beneath busy schedules, successful careers, or even seemingly happy relationships. And while emotional loneliness can quietly erode connection and well-being, it often goes unspoken. Sometimes even unnoticed.

We see it in therapy often: men who care deeply, who want to show up differently in their relationships, but who feel ...

There’s been a growing awareness in recent years that therapy hasn’t always met men where they are. Many of the male clients we see at Clarity Counseling Seattle arrive with a similar hesitation—they want support, but they’re not sure therapy is a space built for them. As Seattle therapists who frequently work with men in high-demand careers like tech, ...

This might count as what the younger generation calls a “vulnerability post.” I’m not totally sure I’ve got the term right, but what I do know is that putting myself on camera isn’t my comfort zone. What I do love? Sitting down with another therapist and diving deep into topics like connection, parenting, and emotional growth. But filming that and ...

For a deeper dive into this topic, you can also read my guest blog on The Gottman Institute’s site.

We live in a culture that often teaches boys and men to be self-reliant, emotionally stoic, and solution-oriented. Those lessons can be helpful in some parts of life—but when it comes to mental health and relationships, they often ...

Over the past few decades, the field of mental health has shifted dramatically. One of the most noticeable changes? The declining number of male therapists.

Therapy is now a female-dominated profession, with men making up a shrinking minority of licensed clinicians. While there is nothing inherently better or worse about any therapist based on gender, this shift does raise important questions ...

Many of my friends have recently transitioned to parenthood, and one common theme they’ve shared is how unexpectedly hard—and sometimes even depressing—that transition can be. Most of us have heard of women experiencing postpartum depression, but fewer people realize that men can suffer too. Feelings of sadness, anxiety, irritability, loneliness, and even grief are not uncommon for new fathers. In ...

Let’s be clear: this isn’t a list of things to “fix” about yourself. You’re not broken, and you don’t need a total overhaul. But many of us — without realizing it — carry habits of thought and behavior that quietly wear us down. They keep us small, stuck, or simply exhausted. Quitting them isn’t about discipline. It’s about making room ...

From locker rooms to boardrooms, from action movies to childhood lessons — there are messages about what it means to “be a man” everywhere. And while some of them may seem harmless on the surface, many quietly promote emotional suppression, disconnection, and self-doubt. It’s no wonder so many men wrestle with questions of identity beneath a surface of “having it ...

The 2015 documentary The Mask You Live In is more than just a film — it’s a mirror held up to modern masculinity. It explores how boys in America are socialized to suppress emotion, avoid vulnerability, and chase a narrow, often harmful definition of manhood. For any parent, educator, or man navigating these expectations, the film offers a sobering and ...